A parenting expert has revealed why a child always being on their best behavior whenever they are around you is actually a bad sign.
Rachael Rogers is a US-based certified parenting coach who frequently shares tips on gentle parenting and understanding your child’s emotions on her Instagram and TikTok.
Most recently, the 40 year old revealed why a child’s good behavior is not always a sign of respect and trust.
The mom to daughter Peyton, four, shocked parents when she explained that kids who don’t act out, are actually in ‘fear’ of you in a viral video that amassed over 2.4 million views.
Rachael Rogers is a US-based certified parenting coach who has revealed why a child who is always on their best behavior is actually a bad sign
The 40-year-old revealed why a child’s good behavior is not always a sign of respect and trust
She shocked parents when she explained that kids who don’t act out, are actually in ‘fear’ of you in a viral video that amassed over 2.4 million views
‘A child will show their most authentic self and their most vulnerable emotions to the people they trust the most,’ she said at the beginning of her clip after admitting she would make ‘caregiver’ angry with this video.
Rachel went on to explain that children who act out aren’t doing it out of disrespect, but rather because they are comfortable around you.
This means that if a child is ‘well-behaved,’ then it’s likely they are scared to express themselves around you.
‘That means that if a child is always very well-behaved and a good little girl or boy in front of you, they don’t fully trust you, they fear you.
‘They are afraid of what you will do to them if they do show their most authentic self or if they do show their most vulnerable emotions,’ she explained.
The mom-of-one noted that many times parents praise their children for their good behavior because they believe it’s a sign of ‘respect.’
However, Rachel said respect has nothing to do with it, adding that if your kid is never shows their emotions it indicates a troubling relationship.
‘We like to say that it’s respect, but it’s not, it’s fear,’ she said at the end of her video.
Fellow parents and children chimed in and flooded Rachel’s comments section with words of praise, noting that she was right on point
Fellow parents and children chimed in and flooded Rachel’s comments section with words of praise, noting that she was right on point.
One mom commented: ‘I have seen this transition with all of my kids. Now they are the most off-the-chain, respectful kids I know! Make your kids feel safe! It’s worth it!’
‘Agreed. My autistic son always meltdown with me. We’ve worked 12 years on it too. And we are so close. He will tell you I’m his best friend,’ said another user.
‘I wish my family understood this. They just say I’m being manipulated by my child,’ someone else said.
‘This is so true,’ added another user.
One person added: ‘As a child that’s been abused, this is so true.’
